to die in order
Some think, that "The Mother" is
just a loving, caring, all-embracing Being. The question is, is that a realistic picture?
People increasingly lack basic security. They feel utterly abandoned. As a surrogate, they
overcompensate their despair in the projection of a universal Mother. It is very
understandable. On the other hand, there are plenty people, who, in some way or another,
have a (very) distorted relationship with their mother (parents), resulting in the image
of "The Terrible Mother". So, who is the Mother, disconnected from our
We have to distinguish our projections from
Reality. Why? Because in the first case, we worship our own needs and desires, only. Now,
in a time of disorientation, confusion and powerlessness, this seems to be unavoidable. It
is the transition of the old to the new. Many people just construct their "own
religions". It is like shopping. They take what "they need". A little of
this, here, and a little of that, there. Until they have created something "that
suits them". A "god" or "goddess" in your own image. Just like
children on the beach, who create their own sandcastle.
Hence, your deity lasts only as long as your
need does. If the need is "fulfilled", another one will pop up, though. So does
your god or goddess. A need-oriented universe automatically creates forms of
"polytheism". What is the underlying psychological mechanism? By creating your
deities yourself, you remain in control. In fact, you are the god/goddess, playing with
your own toys (images). You have created your own petty self-serving little universe. It
is a symptom of fear. Fear of surrendering yourself to the Greater Whole. In Reality, the
Divine is playing with you, though.
In ancient times, the world was still whole,
because it included death as a natural phenomenon. It was symbolized by the Cosmic Womb,
from Which everything - both Gods and the universe - is born, while the latter continously
return to their Source. People revered a cyclic universum. They saw it reflected in the
natural processes, which they imitated in agriculture. Their trust in the All-Embracing
Cosmic Womb was limitless. Hence, they had no fear of death.
This picture changed over time. The fear of
men to be sacrified as a seasonal Vegetation God may have played a role. The Gilgamesh
Epic gives account of that. Gilgamesh "thanks for the honor" to become
slaughtered, escaped from the Goddess and started his "search for immortality".
The accumulation of possessions may also have contributed to it e.g. the fear of loosing
what you have. Invading patriarchal warrior tribes did the rest. They cherished a linear
universe, with death as the end of individual life.
The climax came with Marduk, the Babylonian
God, who finally destroyed the Original Mother (Tiamat). With Her, all sense of being
secured in a Cosmic Womb vanished. Existential fear popped up. The Mother's world was
subsequently usurped by the One God of Israel, JHWH. Death wasn't considered natural
anymore, but an instrument of a revengeful, punishing God. A jealous God, full of fear
about a possible return of the Mother. The ruling class used monotheism for their own
purposes, oppressing the people.
This combination finally established the
reign of fear, which from then on, would dominate later Christianity. Evil e.g. Satan were
created. Still very much connected to men's fear of women. The philosophy of dualism
supported this. While in the past, everything was part of the Whole - Light coming out of
Darkness - these dimensions were subsequently separated as opposites. People were forced
to identify with light, while rejecting darkness. This denial became the foundation of
patriarchal religions. F.i. the major principle of early Buddhism is "to escape from
the cycle of birth and death".
Above mentioned developments have the denial
of life in common. Life, that originally belonged to the realm of the Mother. Turning
one's back to the Mother resulted in all kinds of morbid convictions and practices. A
decisive turning point happened at the end of he Middle Ages. After centuries of
oppression and terror by the Inquisition, destroying all contacts with "Heaven, earth
and the community", people had no choice, but falling back on their ego's. It was the
beginning of a centuries' long ego-accumulation. The cause: "having as the inability
to Be". The Church itself thus being responsible for the "secularization".
To be thrown upon yourself e.g. to be cut off
from reality creates permanent fear. It is the fear of nothingness, of destruction and
death. Hence, a major function of the ego is to suppress it. The time, that death was
accepted as part of natural life, was too long ago to be remembered. Moreover, the Church
did everything that was in its power to frighten people, painting pictures of hell and
damnation. What is (subsequently) excluded from conscious experience, will be
projected in the outside world, though. So, fear of annihilation found its way into
destruction of others, in violence and war.*
* Not surprisingly thus, that this is
part of the morbid fundamentalists' phantasies: the Apocalyps, in which you - the
believers - will be saved, while the others - the non-believers - will be destroyed. True
redemption, on the other hand, is the consequence of giving yourself up, which is the
core-message of Christ.
The refusal to "die" is the engine
behind further ego-expansion. Recently, this has exceeded critical limits. To such an
extent, that the dynamic cosmic equilibrium between "death, permanence and
rebirth" has been disturbed. Mother's Emptiness doesn't tolerate this. Hence, the
rapidly unfolding disintegration on all levels of society. Insight into the true nature of
this crisis is decisive. What is destroyed is our ego-accumulation. The selfsame
accumulation, that threatens the survival of all living beings. Saving ourselves thus
means "to die to the old". It implies cooperation with Mother's wisdom.
In the Vacuum, two major cosmic forces
emerge. One toward manifestation (centrifugal) and one back to the Origin (centripetal).
The former is causing "birth" (into this world), while the former is responsible
for "death". All life is embedded in these two forces. Hence, within ourselves
we feel both the longing for the "drive for life", as well as returning to the
Source (the "death libido" of Freud). However, by giving in to the latter, the
ego - which has identified itself with survival in this world - starts panicking. Its
angst is to die into the intangible Nothingness.
To surrender to Nothingness is a tricky
affair. Obviously, the idea of Enlightenment makes it all easier. However, trying to
attain Enlightenment (almost always) has ego-ambition as the underlying drive.
Furthermore, what is the value of "giving up your ego" knowing that the
"reward" will be spiritual omnipotence? Who doesn't want to give up this little
ego for it? So, eventually, the ego will only be stenghtened. On the other hand, the
Vacuum cannot be possessed. It is the hour of truth. Surrendering without expecting
To know about the All-Embracing Mother - the
Vessel of Rebirth - facilitates your surrender, though. It is simply giving in to Her
centripetal force. This force is there from eternity. So, you don't have to do anything
but accept Her invitation for home-coming. Just like in body-awareness exercises. Rather
than "force yourself to relax" you simply give in to the gravity. Because the
gravity is doing the work, your ego isn't involved. It is the same with giving in to the
Mother. Trust in Her Eternal Wisdom is crucial. It helps you overcome your existential
fear.You are free.
"To die in order to live". This is
the motto of all mystics of all times. Nowadays, it implies the breakdown of
ego-accumulation. It is a "sine qua non" for saving the planet. It is the
reason, why the Mother has revealed HerSelf. She helps us re-integrate Her destructive
aspect to the benefit of the whole. If not, our fear will only (dramatically) increase.
Thus, the Terrible Mother is only terrible to those, who resist Her. Cooperating with Her,
on the other hand, means to voluntary let your ego die off, in order to become reborn as a
New Self. In order to subsequently become part of Her web of life - Heaven, earth and he
(new) community - once again.
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